The internet has dragged a man for yelling at his girlfriend for making a dessert his mother wouldn’t like in a new viral post on social media.
Published to Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a man under the throwaway account u/Extension_Charge9781 shared his story in order to receive opinions from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 4,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began his story by explaining that he has been dating “Rosie” for about a year. Rosie and his mother do not get along as their personalities are too different. His mom of him is “very picky” when it comes to people he dates, but he ignores her rude comments of her and stands up for his significant others of her.
He said that his mother is hosting a dinner party for people in his family. When his family has get-togethers, everyone typically brings something. He told Rosie it would be a good idea for her to make something homemade in an attempt to get on his mother’s good side. However, he specifically said not to make any desserts as his mom hates anything that is sweet.
He continued his story, “Rosie said she wanted to bake something because it’s what she does best when it comes to the kitchen. I told her to look up a recipe on google. She was quiet and about an hour later I came downstairs because I could smell something sweet and I found Rosie piping macaron batter.
“I started yelling about how I told her to specifically not make anything sweet because this was her one chance to get on my mother’s good side and I feel like she only made the dessert to be petty. She got upset and told me to not raise my voice at her and that she was not doing it to be petty, she just doesn’t care what my mother thinks of her and that my mother is not the only guest at the dinner party,” he said.
As their argument continued, he told her that she shouldn’t attend dinner anymore. She agreed, saying that she would not go even if she changed her mind. He wished that he did n’t respond like that, realizing that his mother de ella will resent Rosie even more for not attending the dinner party.
Newsweek reached out to u/Extension_Charge9781 for comment.
What is typical dinner party etiquette as a guest? What are good desserts to bring?
To be a good guest, per thekitchn.com, try to arrive about 15 minutes late as some hosts like a bit more time to get ready. Also, bring a small gift like a bottle of wine or a kitchen utensil, make a toast to the host and keep an eye on their glass and ask to refill when almost empty, don’t look at your phone—unless it’s an emergency and remember to show enthusiasm, curiosity and gratitude.
According to insanelygoodrecipes.com, these desserts are perfect to bring to your next dinner party: a chocolate cookie skillet, sheet pan brownies, a chocolate raspberry pie, mud pie, a peanut butter pie, caramel apple tarts, lemon pound cake, and cookies. cream brownies, cherry cheesecake cupcakes or an apple cranberry crisp.
Newsweek has published several articles regarding the topic of baking including a countertop oven that’s proven “to be the best,” a woman paying her niece for baking a cake and going behind her brother’s back, and the debate that sparked when a bride decided to bake her own wedding cake.
U/CrystalQueen3000 received the top comment with over 17,000 upvotes, “[You’re the a**hole] You yelled at her for baking dude. [What the f**k]. Your mom has never liked a single person you’ve dated and you think Rosie choosing to make a dessert instead of a savory dish is going to make the slightest bit of difference? It won’t.
“Rosie can’t win with your mom so she might as well make something she can do well that others will enjoy than contribute some half a**ed thing that she’s not confident about. You owe her a massive apology,” they continued.
“[You’re the a**hole]. Your girlfriend is right, there are other people at the party. She doesn’t need to cater to your mother solely. Also why is it such a big deal that your mum doesn’t like sweet foods? There’s plenty of other food there I’m sure so she can eat something that your girlfriend didn’t make,” u/alyanm commented.
“[You’re the a**hole]. You say you’re willing to defend your partners from your mother’s snark…and now you’re mad because your girlfriend won’t suck up to your mother’s snark? Your mother is not going to automatically decide to be a better person because Rosie makes something she likes. That doesn’t sound like the type of person she is from the information you’ve given us. Go apologize,” u/SaintSayaka urged.
U/SmadaSlaguod said, “[You’re the a**hole]. Why do YOU need to impress a person who hates everyone you date and has a rotten attitude? Because you’re the only person who cares. You’re not ignoring s**t, you’re letting her snarky comments live rent free in your head and taking them out on your girlfriend.”